Letting Go of My WAW

[SuperDad]

Theoden and Nomopo,
Thanks for the support guys! It's been a tough couple of days, but I am getting back my PMA bit by bit. I talked to my boss and he said that it would be no problem to work a min. of 1 week out of 4 from Austin (everything is NetMeeting anyway since we are a global company). This would put me with the kids 9 days out of 28 + vacation and holidays, so nearly 1/2 time. Plus they would likely visit for a few weeks in the summer. In the end, I know a lot of people who travel more than this and see their kids only on the weekends (8 or 10 days per month).

I will try to explain my decision and then let the 2x4s fall where they may:

1. W is adamant about her returning home to TX in August.

2. I want to end up there in the next few years, but can't compromise everything to do it. Note that all of our extended families live there and we have been discussing going back on and off for years.

3. She wants to take the kids when she goes and said she would go to a L if I did not want her to take them.

4. Even if I decide to fight to make her leave them with me and win, they would then be stuck in FL until I went back to court to change it. This would only give all of our $ to Ls and is not where I want to go.

5. I am not really in a position to have the kids full time since I have to travel overseas 2 or 3 times a year for several weeks and also travel frequently domestically.

6. I want my W to not have me as the excuse for her unhappiness. Really, I view a separation as the only hope for us to have a chance at a new R sometime in the future. She needs to be on her own for a while to understand who she is and also to appreciate all I have done for her over the years.


Well, that's about it!
SD