Chiki, For so long I tried to shield my daughters even though they are older. Of course they knew we were separated that couldn't be helped, but I kept all of my emotions inside and it was eating me alive. I was trying to protect H, they didn't know about his infidelity, but oldest D suspected that he and his secretary were involved from day one. I finally told both of them, because they are older, but tried my best not to talk any details with them. So I guess my advice is tell them what you think they can handle for their age. But keep in mind the best gift we can give them is the freedom to love both of their parents. That is the hardest thing I had to accept, but we don't want to turn into our spouses and make this about our needs. We are responsible parents and we want what is best for our children.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
