Luckily, it didn't quite work out that way for me, but I can say that I told my W many, many times over the years. She just didn't get it. I guess her seeing some of the posts that I've made here over the years is what finally got it to sink in. I don't know...I didn't really "do" anything. So I certainly don't have any suggestions of what anyone can "do" to get it to sink in to the LDS's head. But it seems that they typically only react to something big. hence the term, "bomb".
Ummm....wellll...I don't agree. You probably thought you were telling me in a way that I understood, but I did not understand. You are, in fact, a self-professed dismissive-avoidant and we've discussed here that your typical method of communication was sarcasm. I can say that you never sat me down, looked me in the eyes, and told me in plain English (with no sarcasm) heart-to-heart fashion that you felt that way. Nor did you ever write me a letter as some of the HD men here on this board have to their wives.
Only when I started lurking on your boards and got a glimpse of your thoughts did I get it. Your posts were still quite sarcastic a lot of the time, but I still was able to see the pain behind the sarcasm, which just was not possible when I heard those painful words face to face, and yes, those words were EXTREMELY painful to me. If Cemar is speaking to his wife in this fashion, then that could explain why she isn't getting it either. Perhaps she needs to start lurking here.
