Thanks Cat--I appreciate your validation. I am fighting the fear.
I talked with H about some of my concerns...asked a few questions, listened to the usual plausible explanations and then just let him know that though I have worries, I'm letting his actions carry more weight than the fears. Then we dropped it and went on with our evening out.
I'm choosing to focus more on the good things in the present and let the shadows from the past melt away.
