Be careful man, your are emotionally vulnerable right now. IF you are doing what I think you are suggesting, what is a matter of time, if this person means this much to you, get to know them, allow wounds to heal.
Please, please, please, take a small ammount of advice from someone who gone a bit before you. Make sure you do not hurt this person, do not hurt yourself, this can be a vicious cycle you are heading into.
Go slow, make sure that you do not hurt this person, they are undeserving of it.
We stand as long as we can, but when we stop standing, we need to catch our breaths.
Respectfully, Jack
Jack,
Thanks alot for the input as it mirrors my own thought process. truthfully I guess my GAL got the better of me and I had a lightbulb moment a few weeks back, it was as if I could see my future and W wasn't there.
GF and I have done alot of talking about things for the last week or so, it is going to be taken slowly, very slowly. We both have kids and have agreed to keep our private life private from our kids, GF will not be in contact with my kids nor will I be with hers, we decided this was best because of the turmoil they are already in and neither of us want to add additional turmoil if things don't work out. I would like to think that we are being very rational in our thinking and BOTH of us are putting our kids first in this. We have a timeline we are going to follow with the kids meeting us at perhaps the 2 year mark.
We both are aware of the hurt that could come of this and we have both had enough of that for a lifetime, rest assured we will do everything possible to negate any chance of hurting each other. My family as well as inlaws are aware of GF and have offered thier best wishes. I would assume W probably knows by now as we were seen together by her co-workers at the aforementioned club on Fri night.
I honestly thought I would never be in this position, I thought I would stand until I dropped, I suppose I was right I DID stand till I dropped.
W still has a very long journey ahead of her, I am a realist and know she is gonna need years to get through this. I am also enough of a realist to know that this may not work with GF as well. I do know that I am making a consious decision to see where this road may lead and we are doing it of clear consious and at a time when we are not under a fog of emotion.
No.........it is not another DB member and no it is not faux Fig either.
Thanks for the support all of you, I know there are some who disagree with this, hell I would have probably disagreed as well if I was outside looking in. I just want you all to know this isn't a bandaid solution for pain, my pain has about run it's course and it's very little felt anymore.
The only regret is that this may cause W more pain, that is unfortunate but I have a life to live as well.
