You know I LOVE YOU don't you LOL. You've helped me understand way more from my H's POV about just about everything.
Honestly my H NEVER at any time ever tried the way you have with BB to tell me anything he felt. Now I KNOW if he had I would have listened and done like cadesmom changed my own thinking and would have loved him to show me the desire you've shown BB.
I think from BB's POV she's past the age she really thinks sex is as important and the fact you've been together so long makes her feel secure that no matter how much you tell her YOUR needs she feels validated in her own POV.
You've never cheated in the past so she feels safe that no matter how much you complain you'll never actually follow through either with an A or leave.
I wish she could see that age doesn't have to be a barrier to enjoying sex. Know all the health problems don't help.
Until you pointed out that men want the emotional connetion when they ML I honestly thought it was more just women that needed that. Thought it was enough for a man just to have the orgasm so they could do that alone. Mind you I can do that alone too LOL and it isn't the same. You were spot on so 100% marks.
Don't know if BB will ever see the light and unless you really do drop the "bomb" maybe she never will.
