What's going on in her head? Anyone?

[RedHeadWife]

Well, on someone else's thread (can't remember who) we were kind of discussing how we were "taught" to look at and perceive sex as we grew up.

So the scenerio kind of goes (as for how I saw my parents/my mom and therefore what my role was) was I was the mom, I took care of the household, the children, etc., but sex was not something discussed, it was something that was almost perceived as dirty, it was something that I was not brought up to realize was such a fundamental and big part of a marriage. I didn't realize truly until recently how much deeper and more emotional sex is than just the physical part. Does that make sense? It wasn't that I felt my not wanting to have sex was more important than H's wanting sex. Also, once you get into a routine or a way of life almost, which was going to bed, not taking the time to have sex, etc., and your H seems almost acceptable of that because he in hind-sight has just maybe given up trying, why would you change that?

I think you can increase desire by changing your way of thinking and acting. Like I said before, I'm more of the type that the more S in my R, then I want it more. The more time that tends to go in between times or whatever, then my interest wanes.