cac4 I will say that you can tell the LD person again and again, until you're blue in the face, how awful it is; they'll generally not hear you...until they do...which often only happens by way of the "bomb", like with cadesmom, and so many others. Hat on, suitcase in hand, on their way out the door. "see ya". "oh. NOW I get it..." too late. So true Cac4.
This other forum I used to frequent...mostly women, actually, who are overly-focused on mommy-dom, etc, etc...I'd see these stories all the time. they're actually quite proud of how dismissive they are of their stupid-h's "immature" needs. then they post about his "sudden" affair, or outright abandonment. everyone is always all "awww, there, there, sweety. its not your fault...". I just can't help but laugh. sorry “of their stupid-h's "immature" needs” LOL, that is too much.
cac4 was the other forum MLC? Where ever it is, I would like to read some of the posts from there. Post the web add if you don’t mind.
I post on a forum where several of the H walked away. According to some W, everything was fine, but the OW took her man. I tell them, no she didn't The LBS, and there are LBH's too, ask me for information about how men think. Why a H would just leave.
I got flamed for 6 months over some answers. For a while I quit posting. I say other WAH post. They got flamed severely, till one day some LBW's said "yup they withheld some things because they were not interested, thought it wasn't important, were in mommy mode and H could take care of himself.
I found if a person stuck around long enough, the LBW's started to ask questions about what they could do differently. They dropped some of their defensive stuff. They were defensive because they were really hurting inside. I saw, a person has to get past the hurt and anger before the good work starts.
Now, instead of getting flamed, men are selfish pigs and think with their little head, some LBS's me what their WAH might have been feeling when he left.
Maybe with practice I can get BB to see my point better. I can be good guy, uncle Lou to someone else. I should be able to make the jump at home.
Yes/no?
Cadesmom34 Well, in my defense, I don't feel as if H ever even tried to explain to me how the lack of S in our M was affecting him emotionally or the rejection issue. As I've said, I don't plan to go back to the way it was now that I have started getting A+'s on my lessons. CDM34 I am not saying you fit the description I posted above. I am explaining how it is in some circles. I give you high marks for seeing the light and doing what you have done to keep your M together. ^5.
