And is your W capable of separating the legal D from the emotional D? If not you have to be very careful. My W is not separating the two in her mind right now. Everything I do with regards to the legal stuff = the emotional stuff in her mind.

So, if I say, "I'm not paying that bill" that equals, I don't really love you, I'm not changed, I'm the same jerk as before.

So, I have to do things like, "Why do you think I should pay that bill?" "Wouldn't that make more sense to have that bill split 50/50?" "Would that work for you?"

Quite the balancing act. ;\)

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...