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well the W was cold hearted as I was gray today. Ugh. Found out that my weekly watching them have horse riding might be canceled due to MIL. She has a lot of pressure from the MIL to divorce me like yesterday.

Funny thing is about a week ago when I was dropping of D, I asked her MIL to come outside so I could speak to her in private.

I apologized to her for everything I ever said, for ways I acted towards her, and thanked her for providing shelter for my children and W.

My W actually got "in trouble" for me doing that.

*Sigh* Crappy day, start to another craptacular week I guess.


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2 Children (D12, S15)
9/20/05 - Seperated
4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped
4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love
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oh i am dark on her. I said my piece and that was that. The only interaction i have with her is if we're doing kiddo exchange.


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Ok now i'm loosing it..she's going to Seattle with the OM to help him pick up some of his stuff from the wife he left.


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9/20/05 - Seperated
4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped
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Originally Posted By: NMHurting
well the W was cold hearted as I was gray today. Ugh. Found out that my weekly watching them have horse riding might be canceled due to MIL. She has a lot of pressure from the MIL to divorce me like yesterday.



What the hell? Why do MIL's want their daughters to be divorced? That makes no sense to me. My sister had a horrible marriage and even then my mom and dad always held out hope that my sister and her husband could work things out. When it was obvious they couldn't, my mom and dad supported her through the hard times, but never WANTED her to be D'd. I don't get that...

Even my MIL doesn't WANT us to be D'd.

Sorry you're having a crappy day, they'll go away eventually. Find something to make you happy today.


We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

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JR I'm at work...and she drops the bomb of this roadtrip on me. I'm a nervous freakin' wreck. 3 day trip at least with OM to pick up his stuff from his STBX. How am I supposed to digest that?


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You ignore it, what else can you possibly do? Are you going to let her actions rule your life, or your own actions and decisions?

She's trying to push your buttons, don't let her.


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She's doing a mighty fine job at it. She just asked if i'd allow the kids to go.


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Originally Posted By: NMHurting
She's doing a mighty fine job at it. She just asked if i'd allow the kids to go.


Tell her you'd prefer they didn't, but if she has a good reason for them to go, you're happy to listen. If she doesn't have any good reasons, don't let them go.


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She is still sticking by the "friends" thing. Wants to take the kids because she thinks the roadtrip will be fun for the kids since they're on summer break.

On a side note..she's asked if I'd consider firing the lawyers and just settling with the separation right now instead of us persuing divorce.

Can somebody PLEASE translate WTF is going on here. I don't get it.


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Married 14yrs Together 17
2 Children (D12, S15)
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4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped
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Confused person.


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New beginning? 8/31/07




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