You still aren't listening -- READ THIS: You DO NOT sit her down and tell her you want her to become HD. You DO sit her down and explain to her how her lack of desire for you and/or sex makes you feel rejected, how it makes you feel emotionally.
I would not categorize myself as ND or LD, probably not HD either, but what happens in some of us is that we get so carried away w/ all of the other things in life that we have to do, be it work, taking care of the kids, doing laundry, doing dishes, making dinner, giving the kids baths, that by the time the kids are in bed, we want to GO TO SLEEP. Sex is not high up on our list of priorities, but that doesn't necessarily make me any sort of ND or LD or whatever -- it's where we are in life and all of the obligations, expectations, etc. that we have tend to overwhelm.
Ok, enough of that, AGAIN READ THIS: You tell your W how her lack of desire for you and/or sex affects you emotionally and make sure you tell her about feeling rejected. PERIOD DOT.
It has nothing to do w/ you telling her that you want her to be HD, it's explaining how her not desiring sex MAKES YOU FEEL. NOT HOW YOU WANT HER TO ACT. She will need to decide what changes,if any, she will want to make once you have given her that information.
However, you seem quite argumentative to me so maybe she won't have any desire to make any changes, I don't know. Don't ask again what's going to happen when you tell your wife to be HD, because we don't know the answer to that question. that's not what we've suggested you do, however, if you want to find out the answer to that question, go ahead and ask her to become HD and see what she says or what happens.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
