What's going on in her head? Anyone?

[RedHeadWife]

You aren't listening. I did not say, sit her down and tell her you want her to be HD. I said you need to sit her down and let her know how her not wanting to have sex makes you feel and how seriously it affects you.

Now, I can't reassure you that your W will react the way I did and I'm also not saying you need to say if things don't change I want a divorce, but when my H said he wanted a divorce and finally got around to telling me about how he felt rejected when I didn't want to have sex, I made some very positive changes. In fact I was initiating almost every night or every other night. For me, I just had to decide to put some effort into my M and that included having sex w/ my H. Once you start having sex reguarly, you are most likely going to want to keep having sex regularly. That's how it is for me anyway. When you realize what you're missing (and it can be anything, not just sex), you make more of an effort to keep doing whatever it was you were missing out on.