Oh the roller coaster...

[Dom R]

it's smokescreen, to get you to agree to everything she wants.

be nice to her, but at the same time, fight for everything you think is important in the separation.

I'm not blowing off what she says completely.. she may indeed be "open to reconciliation"... but see how open she is, after you get a FAIR separation agreement.

She also feels it's a very equitable document. But it's not

Then dont accept it.

She and I talked last night and decided it's best we sit down and negotiate directly so that we do not allow the lawyers to turn this into an adversarial thing.

Ha. translation: she doesnt want your side to be fought by a lawyer, who isnt going to be blinded by a desire to reconcile with her. She wants you to agree to something "against advice of counsel".

her actions are in direct contradiction to her words.
pay attention to her actions more.

PS: dont forget; anytime you see "separation agreement", also think "divorce agreement". As soon as you sign a separation agreement, assume that is exactly what you will get left with if she then files divorce.


I'm not saying "dont trust her! she's completely deciving you!!"
I'm just saying, watch your back.. because anything you agree to now, will hit you badly if she has another "change" of heart, in a negative direction.

PS: If she thinks a divorce will be smooth, easy, and painless.. i'd say she's more likely to eventually head for one. It is not in your best interest to be all sweetness and light about it, in my non-professional opinion.