You don't ASK anything !!! You sit her down and let her know exactly how the lack of sex AFFECTS YOU. The rejection, the lack of intimacy, etc. I did not understand the whole REJECTION thing. Your wives probably do not understand, no let me rephrase that, they don't know that that is how it affects you. They don't know that by them not wanting to have sex that you feel rejected by them. I had no clue. Honestly. No clue. To me, like I said, it wasn't something I thought about. I was always tired, etc. and could live w/o it. I honestly didn't want to put the time in to having sex because by the end of the day, I just wanted to go to sleep. I never realized how it was affecting my husband EMOTIONALLY!!! You cannot ASSume that they know or have any clue about it. You need to sit them down and be totally serious about it -- how horrible it is for you emotionally, how the rejection FEELS. Help her to understand that it's not just that you aren't having sexual release, it's way more than that.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
