Why do these things happen III

[789]

I have tried that, in doing so I did it the most non-intrusive way. She doesn't seem to care or at least not interested in it at the moment, no matter which way I phrase it, she seems to think it is about "us". I believe she has her parents paying her rent, she signed a year long lease.
Then that makes me wonder if this is just temporary and that is why she does not want to talk about it. I know she has no way of paying rent herself. probably not even 25% of it, so why sign a lease for that long, I also know her parents can afford doing this, but do not believe they would do this long term, which is why I think a plan was made up so it would be her alone only temporarily.

[789]

Well I am now starting to wonder if something good may come in the near future. Her family and mine have for the most part stayed out of it, which in a way hurts but at the same time is the right thing.

What is funny today is that I had talked to her uncle a month or so ago and sent him this web site, he is a phyciatrist/phycologist, forgive my spelling. Well he just emailed me that he finally got around to the email and is reading it now. While I was reading his email, my MIL just called. I gave her a copy of DB and DR also a month or so ago, all this was pre DBing efforts. She called to tell me she has been skimming over it and likes what it has to say. Unfortunately she is watching her other grandkids and had to go. She informed me she would be calling me back later today.
Now this uncle and her live 300 miles apart, what are the odds of both at the same time calling / emailing me. I feel someone may be looking out for us, kind of gave me a chill down my spine, and a good one at that.

[789]

Come play here Jazz, you won't get into much trouble here. JR is trying to hide my thread.

[789]

Nothing wrong with that, I am all hyper now. I know I shouldn't be, but something is in the air.

Read about 4 or 5 posts up.

[789]

Me too, I just hope they are real.

[789]

Does anyone have advice on how to handle children during these times?

My S8, has in the last couple of days started getting a little ansy. He is constantly asking me to go and be with his mom. I try to answer the best way possible but he is not letting up. I am sure the W is getting the same questions from him. I have asked her and she just says no. Maybe I am just going nuts. He had been fine until this weekend, so it may just be hitting him that we are actually not living together.

I hate to see him go thru this, he knows that I love his mom, but I am wondering if the confusing signals he is getting watching us is what is finally doing it to him.

[JR2007]

You just have to tell him that you and mommy are working some things out and everything will be ok and that you both love him a lot - then go play to get his mind off it. That's all I can do with S4, but that little stinker goes and tells W that he wants to spend more time with Daddy and then tells her I told him to say that, he's getting me in trouble!

[789]

I think it is time to let this thread die.

I know I will be okay one way or the other, but comming in here just makes me think about it more than I probably should. I just need to get over it and let what happens just happen. I just can't stop thinking and that is what is driving me nuts.

I will stop in now and again to check up on all you. Make sure you get your spouses back so I have something to smile at when I visit.

CYA
Bill

[789]

P.S.

Just to let you know, I am not giving up on DB'ing, and not giving up on my wife or marriage. Just need to take a break and relax my mental state.

Good Luck to all of you.

[mkultra]

Good luck to you also. Remember that you need to model how to be happy for your son. He will see that his Dad has a love for life whether you are alone or in a happy marriage that needs mending. Keep that in mind and be positive.