Don't worry one iota about "hijacking" my thread!!!! Actually, I wanted to know how you were doing and was hoping you'd post back. Please post anytime with questions or to share anything. I don't always have a lot of time online and you're posting here or somewhere I've recently been helps me keep up. Also, trying to share things that might be helpful for others helps me too. It helps me to stay focused, reminds me where I've been and how I need to keep DBing too.
Anyhow... I'm glad you admitted to being a little unreasonable and overreacting at the time you asked for a divorce. Being calm and collected, and taking time to think things over, regardless of ANY situation you are facing in a relationship is extremely important.
I don't like that you asked for a hug. It seems like pursuit, and strikes me as weak. Instead I think giving a quick, friendly touch on the shoulder, or if things feel right, giving a quick friendship-like hug can be okay. Just a friendly icebreaker that doesn't come across as expecting more out of the relationship.
Another thing. I don't like that you asked him to call. Once again it sounds weak and almost.... I hate to say this... like you're begging. Insead, what I did with my husband was I'd say if you are ever bored or just need someone to talk with you can call me. Not that he'd take me up on it in the beginning. But eventually, he did. It leaves a crack open in the door. And then you're ending the conversation on a postivie note.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
