Ok, AC, all your plans sound great, but you had better listen up to me that at some point you are going to have to do the deed and talk to her about your SL or accept what you don't have & move on.

Doing the bikes & the ballroom dancing, etc. is great & wonderful, but it's not going to do anything for you in the bedroom. She is not going to necessarily all of a sudden discover an interest in sex with you just because you are doing all these nice things for her. Like I said to Cemar, she is ok w/ not having sex, you guys have gone a long time not having sex and she's fine w/ that. She has no reason to change that!!!!! I know that you want to keep things happy, happy, but your sex life IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE unless you have the nasty discussion with her that YOU WILL NOT ACCEPT YOUR MARRIAGE LIKE THIS ANY LONGER. Or, if that's not the case, you choose to live like you have been. Obviously, you aren't happy w/ that, but don't expect anything to change until you bite the bullet and get down & dirty w/ her on the lack of sex in your M.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10