Violets, your situation sounds like mine in reverse my wife got inivolved with her boss back in Febuary after her father passed. I called him and let him have it and told him that he was taking advavntage of someone in a depression. By the way he went out of town this week also and my wife left for the weekend. how ironic. she just turned 40 and he is in his 50's. what you are talkinig about is really hitting home for me. I hope you find peace, I can't help feeling for you.