Hoo boy, lawless! Just caught up with your sitch, a little! You play the DB game well. No advice, except to not give an inch, unless it's beneficial to the children.
BTW, I also live in BC, and my twins are 20 yrs old (also b/g) - they are such a blessing, aren't they?!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Twins are a blessing and more than twice the work.
So, where to begin,
Ummmm Wednesday W started calling over and over and over again. I ignored the calls. She made her regular call to the kids and at the end of it she wanted to talk to me. She asked if I could meet her at the bank as she really wanted to pay down her debt, she said she would make payments on the rest of what she owed as well.
I met her at the bank on Thursday morning, she pulls into the parking lot and parks as far away as she can from me. She goes into the bank and returns in a few min. I assumed she would come to the window of my Jeep but instead she got inside and became a little chatty. She had several prescription reciepts with her and made damn sure I could see. the reciepts were for AD's and something I think is for a stomache issue. She was looking pretty terrible, putting on weight and bloated, face all full of worry lines and haggered.
She called later and levt a VM, she was home sick and wouldn't be around to see the kids that night. The kids and I went shopping instead of her visit and didn't make it home until 9pm or so.
Friday morning she calls and says "oh you're home" I told her we were out late on Thurs and she said she knew she had driven past the house several times that night. (strange behaviour if you ask me) She asked if we could take the kids for something to eat before they went to the IL for the weekend and I agreed.
I took the kids to Rotten Ronnies and W met us there, she was fairly chatty again and managed to do well for 40 min or so. She was still looking worse for the wear and was pretty depressed when the kids and I left.
My kids free weekend has been a blast so far. I went to a club I used to hang at years ago and had a really good time, such a good time in fact I didn't get home until 6:30 this morning. I wonder what this might do to W because I know for a fact she does a lot of checking up on me when I get a free weekend. I guess she will spin and wonder now
Time for a nap now, I gotta rest up for this evenings activities
My kids free weekend has been a blast so far. I went to a club I used to hang at years ago and had a really good time, such a good time in fact I didn't get home until 6:30 this morning.
Wha?
hmmmm, My boyz better be behaving themselves out there.
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
Your W seems to be trying to get some sympathy reaction out of you. Let her live her life, and don't react to it ... although, it seems you have everything under control, and don't really need that advice, except as a reminder.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
My kids free weekend has been a blast so far. I went to a club I used to hang at years ago and had a really good time, such a good time in fact I didn't get home until 6:30 this morning.
Wha?
hmmmm, My boyz better be behaving themselves out there.
Well Lissie as you know by now I sorta was behaving but now.........
*Announcement*
Billy is going away from the boards for an undetermined amount of time. I have found myself in a situation at this point that would make me a hypocrite to continue giving advice here. I may post an update on W from time to time just so some of the men here can see what happens when you cut the rope rather than drop it. perhaps at some point in the future I'll post regularly again I don't know. I do know I have an oppertunity to get to know someone and at this point I think it's in my best interest to do so.
I'll mail you KS as soon as I can wrap my head around the question.
One last thing I'll leave here is the importance of GAL and working on ourselves. I am in a much better place for it and it will benifit all who partake in it.
Be careful man, your are emotionally vulnerable right now. IF you are doing what I think you are suggesting, what is a matter of time, if this person means this much to you, get to know them, allow wounds to heal.
Please, please, please, take a small ammount of advice from someone who gone a bit before you. Make sure you do not hurt this person, do not hurt yourself, this can be a vicious cycle you are heading into.
Go slow, make sure that you do not hurt this person, they are undeserving of it.
We stand as long as we can, but when we stop standing, we need to catch our breaths.
Respectfully, Jack
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I always enjoyed working with limestone it is a nice looking natural stone.
