Hi everyone, in a couple of months I will be joining your ranks. I thought I'd pop over and meet the new neighbours early. I'll give a quick orientation to my sitch, for those lucky enough to have missed it! W and I have been married 17 years, 2 D's 10 & 13. Three and half years ago W said "I don't know how I feel about you, or the kids, anymore". two and a half years ago W said "I don't love you anymore" and one and half years ago W said "I'm in a R with someone else", turned out to be her best girlfriend! Through this I have stayed loyal and worked to win back this R, to no avail. She has refused MC a few times. I've DB'd, GAL'd etc and last week I concluded that enough was enough. I told her that we were done, I wanted to sit down and work out a separation plan for the end of June and was targeting the end of August for the actual separation. She agreed to this arrangement (so this week she goes out and buys a patio set????). So, last week I spent getting re-aquainted with the feelings of grief,fear and guilt. This week, who knows. Our M has been in the crapper for at least five years, W's idea of working on things was to complain about me and refuse to work together to change anything. But, that is water under the bridge. I guess I'm looking for guidance from those who are where I am heading. It's a whole new world to me, one I thought I'd never see. I've been steadfast in my commitment to winning back my M and keeping my family together. Apparently, I need a new dream. Any thoughts or guidance in regards to where I'm going next in this journey would be appreciated. I wish I could ask for more specific guidance but...never been there, never done this, never wanted to but what is is! Thanks.
