Well, I don't really know what YOU can DO, if anything, but be supportive of her, but that probably doesn't matter anyway. Not to be negative here, just letting you know the truth of it. We women just don't get that our H's still find us attractive for the most part no matter what. I've had 3 children also. Wasn't fat, but maybe a little flabby and, yes, it does affect us tremendously on how we feel about ourselves which flows over into our SL. I ended up losing a bunch of weight during the D bomb sitch and now feel really good about myself, etc. I know it may sound stupid to the guys, because like I said in most cases, you guys love your W no matter how they look, but our minds can't get that.

Anyway, like I said, I don't know what you can do to help her. She needs to decide to do something about it if it bothers her that much.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10