May I ask you a question? You seem to have moved on so much, when will you know it is time to sever links with the H totally? How long will you wait for him to start treating you as you wish to be treated?
I don't know. I think you just keep living your life, praying, making yourself the best you that you wish to be, and healing. When I get caught up in the whys and the whens, then I don't heal. So, I am trying not to focus on that and take my life one day at a time. When I am honest with myself, what difference does it make that I'm married right now? I live alone, I am not really in a relationship, I'm still healing, and I am not truly ready to be with someone else nor have I met someone that I want to take that risk with. So for now, most days, I'm okay with it and I think I'll just know when I'm not anymore or maybe he'll begin to heal too and make a decision one way or another in that time as well which helps me make a decision. FYI: I don't live with my husband (asked him to move out around April I think) so that helps with the healing and space and detaching.
Last edited by galing; 06/11/0712:40 PM.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius
I think you just keep living your life, praying, making yourself the best you that you wish to be, and healing. When I get caught up in the whys and the whens, then I don't heal. So, I am trying not to focus on that and take my life one day at a time. When I am honest with myself, what difference does it make that I'm married right now? I live alone, I am not really in a relationship, I'm still healing, and I am not truly ready to be with someone else nor have I met someone that I want to take that risk with. So for now, most days, I'm okay with it and I think I'll just know when I'm not anymore or maybe he'll begin to heal too and make a decision one way or another in that time as well which helps me make a decision. FYI: I don't live with my husband (asked him to move out around April I think) so that helps with the healing and space and detaching.