Hey RonJon! Long time no hear. I guess we've both kind of backed away from the boards. I find myself back here a lot lately because I'm lonely and everytime there's an opening to talk to people about my sitch with H, it just doesn't feel right. I don't know if it's because I feel a lot of judgement about why I've hung on so long or if it's because of my own unresolved/confusing feelings.
We haven't heard about H's promotion. I'm hoping we will by the end of June/early July. And if he gets it, he'll probably be restationed again this winter. Any decisions about moving will have to wait until then.
I'll have to give some thought to your point about not pushing for too much too quickly. I'm torn on that one because I know it's common DB advice, but holding back has always been my MO in this R. Our pattern has been to protect ourselves against each other, and as the last 3 years has shown, H won't come after me if I pull away. To him that's a sure sign that I don't want him, and he's not going to risk getting hurt. I think my best bet is to let my guard down and be honest about my vulnerability. If he's going to hurt me, he's going to hurt me the same whether my guard is up or down.
That being said...I do think it's best not to push for resolution to our living situation during his leave. He doesn't know how long he'll be at his new unit, and now that he's closer we will hopefully have more opportunities to address that better in the future.
So have you relocated yet? You took the promotion and stayed in for a while, didn't you?
