Take their advice on changing some things in the letter, but send it to her. If she doesn't get a totally scared feeling in her heart and the pit of her stomach, nothing's going to change and you might as well move on.

I needed this type of wake up call from my H and it worked! Hopefully she will realize that she wants to work on things as well and get her rear in gear. Hopefully she will finally understand the seriousness of the sitch. I think that's the bottom line and she needs to know she needs to do something.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10