At the moment, I just don't know. A few weeks back I gave her a "get out" clause on her MLC contract. I told her that I can forgive and forget, regardless of what has happened (she looked at me in suprise and said "Yeah, sure!").
But I don't know whether I will be able to follow through on that offer.
Like you said, the longer this sitch runs, the more emotionally detached I am getting. Who knows.
Things have calmed down over the last week. She has been nicer to me and is calling me Andy (not Andrew) nearly all of the time. She has not snapped for a few days.
If she does decide to come back, I will know then whether I can forgive and forget. I have learnt alot about myself during this ordeal, and I know that I have mellowed out and improved on many aspects of my personality that have festered in our M (I was never like that early on in our M).
Time will tell.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
