I don't know man, I read it a lot in here - Spouses hanging on to the other spouse, while they have an OP, and the spouse gets the raw end of the deal.
Let her know you're moving forward with your life by not being there for her all the time, so she can't hang on to you. I've read on here that shocks the spouse back into action toward the other spouse, but I don't know how often that works.
I guess if you really go dark, you can't do those things anymore and you'll see what happens. Are you ready for the potential bad consequences as well as the potential good? If you're there, then godspeed dude, I hope it works out for you, I REALLY do.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
