Letting Go of My WAW

[SuperDad]

Well folks, I am transitioning over to the separated forum. A quick run down of our sitch:

Almost 3 yrs. ago my Ws two siblings found out that their spouses were having an A with each other. This impacted W terribly. She never really got over this.

Over 2006, she really struggled with depression and started drinking more often and occasionally to great excess (2 or 3 times). Also was yo-yoing on her weight.

In fall 2006, her behavior got more and more erratic. I did not recognize how bad of shape she really was in and did nothing. Being an optimist, I assumed tomorrow would bring a better day and we could move on.

In dec. she went to her niece's wedding shower and met a "very interesting" man on the flight. I thought nothing of it and even encouraged her to contact him RE: potential business opportunities. (Yup, he's now the OM in her long dist. EA).

In Jan. 2006, she quit drinking to focus on getting into shape. (she was already doing OK). By mid Jan she had reached her goal weight, but was still very unhappy with our R. She made a comment about not having sex unless she was drunk right before I left on a 2 week business trip overseas!!!!

The trip was torture. When I returned in early Feb., she said she was done having sex "for a while" and I prodded her into giving me the bomb (ILYBNILWY, not attracted to you like that, etc.)

After a month of pursuing, ILYing her to death, etc. I went to IC and the C supported Michelle's solution oriented philosophy. I have been trying LRT and our relationship is much improved. However, she still is not willing to look at me with new eyes, so we are going to separate.

Unfortunately, she will be moving from FL to TX with our two Ss. I have been looking for jobs in TX, but don't have anything fixed yet. Since TX is home for both of us, I decided to let her go and take the kids without a fight. Better that they are there rather than have a battle and then not be able to take them. My sadness over losing time with my Ss cannot be expressed. However, in the long run, we will all be back in the same city and will do it without a huge legal bill!

W is a certified teacher and is applying for jobs in her old school district in TX (been a SAHM for the past 8 years and did not work for 2 before that). Thus the move/separation will happen before school starts.

We are working on a separation agreement right now.

So sad to be moving here, but I know I will get some great support/advice.

SuperDad?