I've had a blah day. I've been helping DD19 move into her new apartment. H came and helped us. I rode with H to take furniture and DD rode with her friend. I had to get H to take me back to the house since I didn't have my car. Before we went to the house I had to stop at the grocery store. I was weak and asked him if he would like to come over tonight and I would cook for him.. He said I don't know you might attack me. I started laughing and said would that be so bad? By then we were at the grocery store and I got out so I wouldn't have to say anything else. On the way home I said if you want to come over for dinner you need to let me know what you would like. He said I don't know. I just dropped it.
Why is it that they can make us feel so small? I swear sometimes it's like he thinks he is so much better than me. Does anyone else ever feel like that? Forgive me for ranting and feeling sorry for myself, it's just one of those days. It probably doesn't help that I haven't taken my Lexapro in a couple of days. I just don't know where this is going. He still hasn't filed for D and I did not bring this up. I was able to hold my feelings in in front of him. I'm going to pull myself together and go over and help my daughter with her apartment.
Does anyone else ever feel like this? It feels so hopeless. It's just that lately I haven't seen any progress.
Me 44 H 43 M 20 yrs together 24 2 DD 16 & 19 H moved out Oct. 06 Found out about OW (his secretary) Jan. 07
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hugs Yoyo - I think sometimes that we believe that they feel like they're better than us, but inside.. how can someone who has torn apart their family and committed adultery feel better than someone else?? We all go through those self-pity moments.. trust me.. I've had mine!! and have seen no progress lately either.. Soooo darn frustrating. But, you are doing great to not show him that anything is bothering you.
Sounds to me like you are a great woman and other men are seeing that as well. Your husband is a dumba$$. He probably made the comment because he would like you to attack him but knows he doesn't have the right to ask for anything!!!
LO, Thanks for the hugs and caring. I needed that right now. You are so right that they should feel guilty about what they have done to their families, but honestly I think my H thinks everything will be fine. He sees that the girls seem to be adjusting finally, but everyone knows an intact family is the best for the children except for the WAS.
Luckily, both of my daughters will be gone tonight so I don't have to hide my feelings from anyone. I'll have the house all to myself. Oldest D will be staying at her apartment and youngest D is at her high school dance team camp.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well.. as long as HE's happy.. Ugh! That makes me angry.
You can always do what I did last night... Get drunk.. Seriously, I had a few happy drinks and went to bed. Feel soooo much better today after a good night's sleep
LO, You know it's funny that you made that comment about him being happy. One time when I was trying to reason with him (I know big no-no) about how this was hurting the girls. He actually said "Well, I have to be happy too." It is so about them.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yah.. they all say that. My H also said he wanted to be able to make me happy, too... ummm.. to "complete me". Oh boy.. I told him that wasn't his job. He got a confused look on his face at that point.
I agree with you. Yoyo your husband and Matildas,lonely and everyoine else will wake upo sometime and see what they let go..I told mine to day that he had made the choice. You will have to read my post. I don't want to ramble. It is all about them. How selfish are they.....
I wanted to give you a HUG and support. I am in a terrible mood today so to me like lonely said he is a stupid A-- and I think there is a lot that can join him. There can be a whole herd of them all jack A-sses. You usually don't see this side of me. but the time has come to set my foot down. I like lonely have poured myself a couple glasses of wine.
Sorry about the ranting and carrying on. Hang in there and be strong....
Thanks everyone, Ya'll always pick me up when I need it. It is so nice to have everyone on here. We've all gone through it and have basically heard the same song and dance. There must be a "How to be a Jack-A$$ 101 class" for all of the WAS's out there.
I'm better today. Oldest D and I went shopping today, when all else fails shop to you drop! We had a nice dinner on the company credit card! Unfortunately youngest D couldn't join us, she is at drill team camp. I will take her shopping and out to eat soon. It's easier to take them shopping separately. Their taste is so different. Today is oldest D's b-day. H called and told her happy b-day and asked her if she wanted to go out to eat. She said maybe tomorrow I've got plans with Mom to go shopping and to eat. He still hasn't taken youngest D out for her b-day! The sad thing is this should be a family thing not a let me decide who to go with, Mom or Dad? Tonight one of D's friends was over here and she was talking about how her hair was falling out. My D said stress will do that to you. Mine has been falling out for a long time during..., she paused like she was going to say something and then thought a little while and said umm...during finals at college. I know she was going to say this separation, but didn't want to in front of me. On the way home from shopping today,drove to a larger city about 30 miles away,D looked at me and said why do you look so sad? I said I'm not sad,(I really wasn't)and she said you always look so sad. I hate that she thinks that. She wasn't here last night thank goodness because she stayed at her new place last night. She took her cat and new puppy with her. She called me crying because she thought the cat had ran away. I told her I would come help her look. Luckily,the cat was hiding behind the stove of all places! She never called her dad.
Hugs to everyone, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon