I've been reading and following along. I am usually in the MLC forum but like many, actually most, I am awaiting the finalization of my D.
I understand completely when you say you don't appreciate other peoples opinions on how to handle your D. On top of the awful pain and sadness of this terrible event, people make it seem like it's so easy to take your spouse for everything especially if they were in the "wrong".
I say this because I've had my share of people that think because my STBXH went off with ow and lied for over 2 years, that I should be able to get everything I want. Unfortunately the courts in my state don't agree.
Even though I have things in my favor, (M-22 yrs, 3 kids, many yrs. stay at home mom, etc.) I am terribly afraid to go to court. The courts don't place much weight on adultery anymore.
Besides I like many of those on these BB's just want to get past this horrible torture they call divorce. I can't imagine much worse than this.
I will be praying for all of us who are suffering through an unwanted divorce.
