Weirdness in the Hap household

[MJontheMend]

You are also falling into that self-beating trap you used to fall into when your 2bx would slam you... meaning, I sense that you are coming 'down' on yourself in some way for not necessarily being attracted to 'normal' men.

And... how would that be YOUR problem? And how is it even a problem until it, in fact... happens? You've been married for the last 20 years... how could you possibly KNOW this?

Well, I was in some relationships previous to my marriage. It generally wouldn't be very validating for a nice, normal man to be in a relationship with me for the same reason it wouldn't be very validating for a nice, normal man to read Nabokov. So, really, I'm not coming down on myself at all. I have a fairly high opinion of myself. I'm just feeling sorry for myself because a reader is missing the point if he picks me off the shelf because my cover art is sexy (At least read the first paragraph .."Lolita, light of my life, fire of my loins. My sin, my soul." or, more to the point, the last line of the second paragraph "You can always count on a murderer for a fancy prose style.")

Anyways, I'm thinking of changing my profile to read something like

Pretty much the last pretty thing my ex spat out before I firmly pressed hook into eye behind him was "Well, I sure as *&%# couldn't handle you and I'd like to meet the man who could."....so would I.

What happened to the half indian guy and the guy who had the Tibetan Monk in his kitchen?

Half-Indian guy was cute but talked like a depressive Grandpa. This may have been due to the fact that he grew up in Northern Michigan. Residents of the U.P. use fewer words in their active vocabulary than most people on the planet. It really is true that a guy will say "Eh" and by that convey "Hi. Nice day isn't it. Would you like to go and get some lunch?"

Tibetan Monk guy is spending most of the summer in Tibet with a group of 7 women. Also, he suffered from premature-validation. Although, really that was okay with me given my current state of mind. I needed a nice gooey wad of it after dealing with my 2bx for 19 years. However, he used the word "lovely" when describing a sexual interaction with me which wasn't very validating to me because my reaction to that was to think "Whoa, Mojo, you are REALLY off your game!"