I need some advice

[catfan]

If he wants to come over he ain't done. Remember #3 from the mandatory Don'ts

"Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because s/he is hurting and scared."

Now remember your Mandatory DO's, especially #2.

Mandatory Do's (from Divorce Remedy page 139-140)

1) Be patient. Time is an asset even when it seems to be killing you.
2) Listen carefully to what your spouse is really saying to you.
3) Learn quickly that anger is your enemy.
4) Learn quickly to back off, shut up, and walk away when you want to speak out.
5) Take care of yourself. exercise, sleep, laugh, and focus on all the other parts of your life that are not in turmoil.
6) Be cool, strong, confident and speak softly.
7) Know that if you can do a 180, your smallest consistent action will be noticed much more than any words you can say or write.
8) Read as much as you can on this subject.