There is nothing you can do. If she does go to see OM, it is beyond your control.
U do control your current sitch now. She is in a better place with you, so any decision she makes will be a hard one (if in fact OM is back in the picture).
U have to just keep doing what you are doing, and not worry about it. It is all going to a script that you have no control over. You have to let it play itself out.
My W got home at 3.30am this morning. I have stopped worrying about what she was doing, if she was with OM etc, it is beyond my control. I just have to look after myself and DD now, and stay under the radar so that W can realise what she is doing without any pressure from myself.
Just don't snoop, as this will severly affect your PMA, and you will not be able to hide it from her. This may even fester (knowing if OM is still in the picture), and it will ruin all the goodwill you have established so far.
Just let it ride out my friend. I know it hurts but you have to let go for now and just keep being nice.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
