Hi JR, Just got back from dinner with friends and saw your note. I'm very impressed by Amy. Her explanation is very strong!! There are a lot of things which I feel are the same with my husband. Remember your post to me yesterday?
Personally I feel your DW is considering her options. Weighing it carefully. You have kids right? She thinks about them too. Let her be. Be happy you don't find the papers. It buys time for the both of you.
Next week I have been at this for a year (and DB for 6 months). In the beginning every single day took about 80 hours. Everything went sooo slow. Now days fly by. I still see i have to learn so very much and thanks to Amy I see I have some more implimenting to do. The changes are there, some come natural some still don't. I want them ALL to be natural and I want to feel comfortable with ME, all the time. It wouldn't work when DH came back and I had to think about piecing, minding myself and my habits, changing GAL and feeling comfortable etc. all at the same time. As hard as it seems use this time for you. Being comfortable with you. that is the most attractive aswell!! In the beginning of my DB carreer I was frantically showing all my changes and it did not feel sincere. Now I'm much more relaxed and I see my DH is more comfortable around me aswell.
Anyway stop assuming things. It won't help you. I know it is really tough but try to focus on what will help you.
