I thankyou all for your replies and special thanks to snodderly for checking in on me, yes as you say snodderley that was the arrangement that I didnt pay him rent in exchange for him not paying me any child support, he as gone back on that and told his solicitor that I signed a very legal form called a tenancy agreement this is a legal binding contract to pay him rent I never signed it. We will be ok son and I are looking forward to moving and it isn't that what bothers us, it is the fact that 2 years down the road this monster still keeps stirring crap up for us, I have had the child support onto me this morning as I phoned and asked why he wasn't paying any money, and yes he as told the child support people he is on benefits, he as been in work a full year now, I just cannot wait to move out and get shut of him for good, this is nowhere near at all the man I knew. you know what I have thought many a time I wish he'd have died instead at least if that had happened he wouldn't keep bobbing up with his crap, and I am not a nasty person and I shoudn't say that, but I think it would have been better
