OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............

[Dr LOve]

Hey Andyv how you be?

I think you are doing great. I also think you may have found a weak spot in your W. Ya see the way I look at it is our S knows they can trust us. WE HAVE MORALS. But that also is a down fall because they feel too secure. They don’t worry about losing us no mater what they do.
I think the W BF is showing your W that 1. You are GAL and 2. Other women ARE attracted to you.
As for painting your face blue…. Well one thing I found is that being married for 16yrs I have become too conservative. I went to work came home. The W knows what to expect from me (you). IF painting your face is something the crowd does there GO FOR IT. Think about how shocked your W will be. How the NEW you is starting to show. Of course if you are the only one with a blue face then she may think you jumped off the deep end.
Play nice, but we have to give the W’s a little less security. They think that we will sit on the bench and be happy. We got ta let the coach know “hey ya don’t put me in I’ll go to another team” Or ya can sit on the bench and be happy being the water boy.
Ya sound better today maybe my MOJO made it.

Husband

[EmtnRllrCstr]

Andy, I say paint your face blue, shave your head, wear a toga and go streakin during a break in the action. Let the wild man out. Now if that doesn't get your W attention nothing will.

Take care,
ERC

[andyv]

Hey Husband,

Just got home from work, I hope I don't get another shift like this for a while. I find it hard to sleep at the best of times let alone 5am.

The weather is perfect for sleeping though, its fairly cold and has been raining heavily for the last few days.

You are right about our W's tending to be secure in knowing that they can do what they want and we will be waiting for them. My W is the most stubborn woman on earth. This is the thing that scares me the most. Once she puts her mind to something (like Divorce, R with OM) she will put in 100% to prove herself right.

The MOJO came in handy, thanks. I was lacking it for the last few months.

I hope things are still progressing well with you.

Oh, before I left for work last night, my W made me a coffee whilst I was in my office. She also asked whether I wanted a snack. Like I said before, there are too many variables to even consider anylizing what she is up to. I will take it as the kind gesture that it is and not look to much into it.

[andyv]

Hey ERC,

How are things going with you. You mentioned in your sitch that your sister is Bi-polar. What sort of symptoms did she have, I have a feeling that my W may have it also.

She has extreme highs and lows (anger) but other than when she is relaxed in front of the TV, no in betweens. For example, she had a go yesterday evening about "always cleaning up after you two (me and DD), leaving bottles lying around". She got really angry (DD owned up and said "It's me mum, not daddy").

Five minutes later, she asks me in a caring voice if I wanted a coffee. These mood swings have been a part of our M, and I have been so used to it that I only have been noticing now (Due to DBing). Mixed with MLC and OM, Bi-Polar would just about top it off in regards to mission impossible.......

As far as the streakin goes, If you guys got the telecast in the States, I reckon I would have done a nudie streak across the field for you all.

[Dr LOve]

Andyv

Coffee I hope you did thank her.Do not worry why shedid it she did it. She could not bring you coffe if she was not thinking about you.
And by all means THANK HER. something like "Great I needed this thanks for thinking about me"

Husband

[andyv]

Husband,

Yes, I did thank her for the coffee. I have always thanked her and appreciated the things she does, even now.

I got up a few minutes ago (yippee, got nearly 7 hours sleep). And have not seen any Real Estate agreements lying around (she would normally leave papers/documents on the kitchen bench).

Hopefully the agent told her to wait till our home is completed before selling (or even gave her a bad price due to the market being down).

Husband, like I said before, I have to get out of the habit of thinking why my W is doing things. Although my PMA is on the increase, in the back of my mind I feel that she may be doing something (ie Divorce papers, selling house, wanting her own place to be with OM earlier etc) and hence the good will shown to me (keeping her enemies close) is not really unconditional.

I still feel that she is still angry at me and does not want anything to do with me at the moment. She won't even wait the 12 months of separation to complete the D process.

These are my feelings, although possibly wrong. I just have to not dwell as much as I have.

[Dr LOve]

andyv
They are your feelings; they are not right or wrong. They just are your feelings. Even though my sitch seems not as bad as yours. I get the same feelings. Is she being nice because she is feeling bad for what she did (my hope) or is she being nice because she wants to keep things quite until the drops the big one (my fear). I what to stay in a PMA but Sometimes I think I am just fooling myself. Do your self a favor and go read some sitches in Piecing Our Marriage Back Together Again. Read Root’s sitch it is inspirering..

Husband

[Dr LOve]

andyv
They are your feelings; they are not right or wrong. They just are your feelings. Even though my sitch seems not as bad as yours. I get the same feelings. Is she being nice because she is feeling bad for what she did (my hope) or is she being nice because she wants to keep things quite until the drops the big one (my fear). I what to stay in a PMA but Sometimes I think I am just fooling myself. Do your self a favor and go read some sitches in Piecing Our Marriage Back Together Again. Read Root’s sitch it is inspirering..

Husband

[Dr LOve]

Andyv

Is it still raining? My son and I love the rain, We go puddle jumping in the jeep. Two more days and I'm outa here

Husband

[andyv]

Husband,

It's pissing down. Over 230mm of rain has fallen in the last 24 hours. Roads are closed due to flooding, emergency services are flat out (huge gale force winds, roofs being blown off etc).

I had six large boxes of household rubbish I was going to get rid of, put it on the front porch. This morning, all the boxes were gone (blown away). They were full boxes. Only some cardboard was left that remained from the boxes (wedged in the railing).

I took DD to see Shrek 3 tonight, and then we went to the Sushi Train for dinner (her choice would you believe). When we got home, she couldn't stop thanking me for a great time. I tucked her into her bed, and a few minutes ago when I went to grab something out of my bedroom, there she was, in my bed with her Shrek doll that I bought her after the movie.

I am taking DD and my sister to my mothers house for lunch tomorrow (my W still says that she loves my mother and misses her so much, but has not even spoken to her since Xmas, thats how much she loves her....)

My W is out tonight, she said she was going to dinner to catch up with a friend that had gotten back from a trip overseas. I don't really care too much what my W says she is doing, so I don't really know why she tells me. I prefer her not to say anything other than "i am going out".

Why do they continue to do this, even after the R with OM is revealed. Does it make them feel better. You don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to work out they are out with OM, so why bother trying to explain a lie to your spouse, just don't say anything.

She kept spewing about being a grown up and not having to tell me anything or anyone that she goes out with. So why is she still telling me?

Sorry for the vent, it is just annoying.

Anyway, W has not brought up anything about the RE agent that came over three days ago, no talk on the D papers she mentioned three days ago. I have been under the radar since last weekend, and will continue to keep myself busy.

Have a good trip Husband, wishing you all the best and keep up the good work buddy.