Plz plz if u can take away 1 thing from this website or what any of us tell u - its focus on u - your actions. I have been doing the begging pleading for 10 years- affair after affair - no fix. when i came to this website and started CHANGING me - things started to change for me. U HAVE TO WORK AT IT - HAVE PATIENCE - results come. my tips for changing:
1. NEVER PLEAD OR BEG or CRY - always do opposite to what u have been doing 2. GET A LIFE FOR U - for me this event meant going to a bookstore in eveing buying coffee reading a book! 3.NEVER bring up the M or ur R in front of H. 4. Never talk about future 5. Change your image/ hair do - how u dress 6. change routine 7. spend time with freinds/make some new friends. 8. Always look GOOD when H around - smell good - small things 9. Leave nice lingerie in your bathroom - b mysteriouse - have fun 10. Read about OW on web - they are never happy, insecure - if he cheats on u to be with OW - he will cheat on OW. NEVER LASTS The OW is more insecure then u - YOU are the WIFE. Affiars dye after time when reality hits in 11. So CHANGE - If u love him fight for your M - with dignity. 12. Dontcall him as much - u will notice he will start calling u
SO NO CRYING, PLEADING etc - dont even mention the M to ur H - TRUST ME IT WORKS - I did not think it would - but 6 months later - I feel i have some control and self respect.
TRUST ME HIS ATTENTION will shift from OW to u. My H is a hard man - some of the above worked. so he talks about getting help for his affiars- he talks about our M now - not me. Good place to be - it took LOTS LOTS of work - I was dying inside- it was hard, I was hurting, I was angry, I was betrayed. TRUST Me change for u - he will notice.Keep posting here - it REALLLY Helps. I am in Middle East - these people on the site have really helped me thru some tough times.
So come on u can do this - U be stronger for it.Pray 4 u
