When's it my turn?

[Jen_Jam]

SD I think I can understand how you feel - that line "Instead of TALKING to me, he makes assumptions about what I think/how I feel and then gets pissed off at me for a decision I never had a part in." is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much like my H.

get this too - my H always says "tell it to me straight" so do. Then t'other night he asked me something (and I wish I could remember what it was!!!) and I gave him a straight answer, then I had to then say (after he got his constipated face on) that what I meant was what I said and not this myriad of other things he'd ASSUMED I MIGHT be thinking!!! He looked relieved after that, so i think I'm bang on the money in that he was assuming other things. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I then told him (and I think these words hit home) "you say you want to be told things straight but you don't listen to them straight". Then no further discussion. I cannot go on with him trying to GUESS what I am thinking. But it's his choice to make the jump.

So - back to you, gosh SO much of this I could be typing in my own thread, it's spooky. All I can say for you is that you've stated clearly what you want, now is time to ID those baby steps H will take, and cheerlead him when he does. I suggest this cos it works for me, it may work for you.

Or you could do what I did ..... come over to my thread