I don't know what to do, my situation is totally BS right now. My wife is hellbent on divorce/seperation, and is having an affair with another man. On top of it to seperate she wants to buy a new house before she moves out of the house.
She just sent me an email from a realestate website telling me how much she loved this house, and how i should go with her to check them out.
WTF? I am tired of this, i've let her walk over me too long. Should i help her get dressed for dates with this guy too? I love her, but i think we have to live seperately right now.
I am thinking about sending her an email: --------------------------------------------------------- I'm not sure how to respond to these kind of emails. I apologize if I haven't been clear concerning my feelings around splitting the family up, but I feel it is insensitive to say the least for you to expect me to get excited about the house & neighborhood you want to start your new life in.
At the same time, our living situation definately needs to change. You have said you have stopped seeing OM, but it is obvious that is only accurate in its most limited definition. I am no longer willing to live in a house with a woman who is having a relationship with another man. Until our money is split evenly, I believe the only option is for one of us to rent at this time. If you are unwilling to find a place to rent then I will.
I'm also thinking that as part of this we need to iron out some details, including things like:
1. Parenting Plan - would you like a 4 day split, or a week on/week off? 2. Money - I suggest we open seperate bank accounts, and take some dollar amount maybe $XXXXX.00 each to live on temporarily. The rest of the money can stay in put for the time being. Thoughts? a. Things like the house bills can be shared expenses. We should each pay 50% towards utilities, maintenance, etc, until we figure out what happens to the house. b. We should each get seperate credit cards, or decide to use different ones so we can pay the bills seperately. --------------------------------------------------------
