K.... Rob, sorry, I feel dense but I don't get it.
I don't feel that pain and hurt when I'm not around him or with him or thinking about him. I am happy and okay and rebuilding my life. You are right... I am happy, confident and feel like I'm pretty terrific. I don't really feel an anchor weighing me down except when the alien transporter ray \:\) brings him to my neighborhood.

I feel like with time, if he weren't around, I would heal. And I feel like with time, if he is around, and if he is treating me well, then I'll heal too (with him in the picture).

Sorry.. feel like I'm missing something regarding what I'm supposed to be feeling or that I'm supposed to be "getting."

Thank you for all the thought put into these posts!

I've talked to Ian and Scottie about this before but I think what you term as forgiveness, I term as acceptance. To me forgiveness does involve two people.

Last edited by galing; 06/09/07 02:38 AM.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius

Me: 32 XH: 33
M: 8 years
Affair discovered: 06/2006
rediscovered: 11/2006
Separation: 04/2007
Divorced: 10/09/07