We did some (I can't remember the name) where you sit and say something, the other person repeats it back to you and asks if they heard you correctly - you know what I am talking about. Some call that mirroring.
http://gettingtheloveyouwant.com/therapists/Articles/ArtofMirroring.htm Mirroring is literally and accurately reflecting back what the other is telling you. The purpose of mirroring is to let the your child know you are willing to put aside your thoughts and feelings for a moment to really listen and understand her point of view.
why are you responding with so little emotion, can't you hear how hurt she is, she needs to know you understand that pain." And we went on from there. It was very comforting to me and I was crying like a baby Sounds like some real work was done. (((HW))), it is OK to cry.
he is leaning definitely towards detachment theory with H OK. Sounds reasonable.
Optional questions. How about you? Any clinical reason for you to be so understanding and forgiving all these years? Anything to move the M forward?
I worked the 3rd shift for several years after I finished college. Not fun and I was tired a lot. I see your H works nights. Consider working nights as R killers.
I had time for a sexual R with BB but she didn't. Like I said, 3rd shift is a real R killer. I worked about two year on 3rd. shift then went to 2nd. Shift for 5 years. I decided to quit that job when management wanted me to go back on 3rd. shift.
Just trying to come up with things that you might look at to improve your R.
Wow, didn't know my life was of such interest to anyone other than me. PS, your situation is more interesting than Paris Hilton.
