Nikki, it really is funny because when I read the book I found examples that shouted "this is you!" I also know that whenever W wanted to "talk about the R" I would cringe. I knew I wasn't going to be hearing "I just wanted to tell you how happy you've been making me lately", it would all be about how I wasn't measuring up. So R talk was always difficult even when I tried to be open and willing to work on change. She once told me that I didn't listen to her in the way she needed. I agreed to try and change the way I listened but asked that she help me out by pointing out when I was falling into the old pattern (you know the one, trying to fix it versus listening). She told me "If I have to teach you then you can't do it!" Wow, talk about a PMA boost. Anyway, I hope you'll check out the book, I found it helpful in understanding the female mind as well as the male.
