Madonna/Whore Complex Part 4

[Heywyre]

Wow, didn't know my life was of such interest to anyone other than me

Well, H seemed in a little bit of a pissy mood when we met to go to the ST. But I was pleasant, and I am sure it was because he was tired (he's been up since 11:30 last night and it was 2 pm)

Anyway, we get to the ST - pleasantries all around. ST starts off with wanting to finish off with last week's discussion about the dynamics of H's family and mine, then he asks if we did the homework. ST asks ME why. I proceed to say I brought it up on the way home last week, H put it off. I brough it up again on the weekend, H put it off and I never persued any further. ST looks at H and says "is this true", H says it is and proceeds to apologize for not attending to it and will accept the full blame. ST says "if you had leukemia and needed treatment what would you do?" H just said "well, that's obvious". ST says, "this isn't any different. If you aren't going to do the homework, there is no point in us going any further." H agreed, his hand had been slapped, and we proceeded on.

I will say one thing about this guy, he sure gives us our money's worth. His fees are more than the other guy but we were there for an hour and 35 minutes (we had an hour appointment) and he doesn't charge extra.

We did some (I can't remember the name) where you sit and say something, the other person repeats it back to you and asks if they heard you correctly - you know what I am talking about. Anyway, we did some of that and H was very uncomfortable, I could tell. ST had to stop him and say, "why are you responding with so little emotion, can't you hear how hurt she is, she needs to know you understand that pain." And we went on from there. It was very comforting to me and I was crying like a baby

He said that he is going to go over his notes and come up with a diagnosis and a plan to get us through this by next week - he is leaning definitely towards detachment theory with H