IIf anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. I should know now how to detach easily. Its not like this hasn't happen before. How can I find the strength in myself to move ahead and detach. It is so hard being in business with him and he not answering my calls. I talked to him last night for a minute I finally ledft a message saying this is business. The way he is acting so strange I am almost positive that she is with him. for this last weekend. Any advice on detaching I woulda appreciate it. I just hate the games that they play.
Maybe it time to figure out how to move on. Financially it is not a good time but mentally it is draining me.
Penny, Oh what a day you had. I'm sorry. Wish I was there to give you a hug, but I'm sure sending them your way. Thank goodness for your wonderful son. Children truly are blessings, mine are what have kept me sane.
I understand completely about the phone calls. It seems my H never heard the phone because he was in the shower. I said he had to be the cleanest person ever. He is also bad about turning his phone off and then saying something must have been wrong with his phone, this the excuse he told my D when she couldn't get ahold of him. When he did have it on I would call it and he wouldn't answer and then after about 3 times I would leave a voice mail telling him what the problem was and then he would call me back. They make you so suspicious.
I'm reading the The Five Languages of Love by Chapman, very good and another one I liked is Love Must Be Tough by Dobson.
Please don't blame yourself.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Thanks for the hugs. I appreciate them. I know I hate the games that they play. Its like he wants me at his beck and call. All for them. He called me 4 times today. This morning he kinda had a chip on his shoulder but it is hard tohave a conversation with him. I try not to ask questions but he doesn't imput much either except what is happening in the business. I mentioned today hey would you like us to fly back there for some company? Dead silence. I said just a thought if you wanted some company and he said well you are really busy with the business right now. So I am pretty sure he had her back there around all the people and doesn't want me there.
I think I just have to toughen up and start planning what I need to do for me. What do you think? When he comes back if he wants to leave then I guess he can....He already is basically gone.
Thanks for the advice and support. It is wonderful having you guys.
“I mentioned today hey would you like us to fly back there for some company? Dead silence. I said just a thought if you wanted some company and he said well you are really busy with the business right now. So I am pretty sure he had her back there around all the people and doesn't want me there.”
You may be right but you don’t know. I am sure as soon as this thought came into your head your positive attitude in your voice changed. You automatily thought he was hiding something. Could he really be concerned that you are to busy? You don’t know. Are you to busy? It’s hard; I keep having the same problem. But don’t assume ya know that they say when you assume you make an ASS out of YOU and Me.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hi Penny, Here's to hoping that you have a wonderful day! Penny it seems our lives are so parallel. My husband always came up with excuses about not being together, valid or not they can drive you crazy. I have heard through the grapevine that my H's father and both of his grandfather's had affairs. I have read that this tends to run in families, oh how sad. Read my thread Husband gave me some good advice on phone calls to them. Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Iknow it would bug him. I am shipping again tomorrow and it will bug him because I didn't answer his calls last Thursday and he ended up calling oldest S which was with me. I am thinking about going to my oldest S National Finals this Monday and Tuesday. It is 7 rs away so I am busy trying to get everything done so I can go. He seems to care what the boys are doing and ask if things are going OK. He is back to calling 4 times a day. He is listening to self help tapes. sometimes I don't think he even realizes how he is coming a cross when he talks to me. Right now he is real weird acting and isn't being very communicative.
I will give it a try and see what happens. I have done it before and he gets real defensive and tells me he doesn't care.
Hi penny, I have wondered if these affairs is a family history thing too b/c my H's dad did it all thru their marriage and I think his grandfather too?
Hi penny, I have wondered if these affairs is a family history thing too b/c my H's dad did it all thru their marriage and I think his grandfather too?
C
Family history...interesting! My H's dad actually died in a car accident with another women in the car. Apparently they were running off together. H always hated him, but could there by "an affair gene"????
