I'm sounding a little like Frank, beccause he bitch-slapped me on the phone the other day and reminded me that sometimes I sound like a nice-guy wus and it's very boring.
I said you were a PUSSY, not a WUSS. Big difference.
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I told her several times that the way she treats me is wrong.
Try 'unacceptable'. 'wrong' is a moral judgement. 'unacceptable' is a demand for respect.
I think your handling this well. Be the Superior Man.
NS4US is offering some very sound advice. Saying, "Hey next time, how about S15 or I call you before we want to change plans, is that OK? I don't want to be inconsiderate" sounds like the way to go.
She's mad because she feels so out of control of her life, every little hitch is magnified 100 times.
Your so mad because she had an affair and moved out and has ripped yor heart out -- so every little hitch is magnified 100 times.
The spat is really small stuff dude. Recognize that other things are at work underneath.
Hello!!!! The anger is just beginning to process itself out. It hit me about a month ago. I'm sooooo...pissed. It's OK to go easy on yourself. It's normal.
However....
The anger might be fuel for two things: detachment and losing your fear.
Deatachment: you actually don't want to talk to her because you are so pissed. You actually don't care what she thinks because that wife of yours is acting like a bratty teenager. You don't even care if you raise your voice at her. You are losing your desperate clinginess that needs to check your relational pulse every 15 minutes. The trick is to convert your anger into passion for other things in your life. She should realize the reason you aren't picking up her calls is not because you are pissed, but that you are living such a fun, interesting and *mysterious* life. You aren't avoiding her. It's just that she's not the center of the world anymore.
Losing your fear: Sometimes being pissed at someone helps you get over the fear of losing them. You'll be fine without her -- thank you very much. Once you lose the fear, their control over you is totally gone. They lose power over you. And you regain yourself. This makes you more attractive. Women aren't drawn to fear and weakness. Maybe you can convert the anger to confidence and centeredness. This way she doesn't feel like you are pushing her away. Fear pushes away. Anger does too, if you allow it to consume you.
View anger as a step towards stregnth and self-confidence.
Your dangerous male strength and anger are to be embraced. Don't run from it. As a true warrior, you will not let it consume you and then turn you into a bitter man or a bully. Rather, you will become a paragon of virtue, nolbility, strength, passion and fierceness. You are a knight, a samurai.
See the gift of your anger?
I'd rather see your anger than your fear or your self-pity.
On a lighter note...
I was hoping you might buy an iridescent teal-colored tight spandex running suit that cradles your muscular thighs and accentuates your tight little a$$.
Frank-I think I used unacceptable and inconsiderate in the actual convo. And thank you for outing Theo. You have never called me a wuss, you generally use pussy.
You the man Frank
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
I was hoping you might buy an iridescent teal-colored tight spandex running suit that cradles your muscular thighs and accentuates your tight little a$$.
Just so ya' know.. This outfit recommendation is not gonna die either
And, can ya'll quit using the "P word". You're offending me.
Mr. Skin-Tight Teal-Colored Spandex Running Suit Guy
OK.
I think MC loves those names.
Maybe MC, Theoden, SD, and Frank can all shoot a dance-video together. All in tight spandex running suits. We can call the song, "My Wife Stole my Mid Life Crisis".
But then, I called HB's husband, "Mr. Can't Keep his d#ck in His Pants."
yah.. but, THAT was funny !!!
Originally Posted By: theoden
So he is:
Mr. Skinny Dude Hotpants Guy -AND-
Mr. Skin-Tight Teal-Colored Spandex Running Suit Guy
OK.
I think MC loves those names.
Maybe MC, Theoden, SD, and Frank can all shoot a dance-video together. All in tight spandex running suits. We can call the song, "My Wife Stole my Mid Life Crisis".
yes.. I think he loves those names, too!! Oh dear God.. What a visual that brings to mind!!!! hahahahaha!!!
