Nikki, I've mentioned this book to a couple of others on the BB, I will do so again. It's called "How To Improve Your Relationship Without Talking About It: Finding Love Beyond Words" by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, it's Michelle approved! Here is some bullets from the back cover:
*Love is not about better communication. It is about connection.
* You'll never get a closer R with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends
* Male emotions are like women's sexuality: you can't be too direct too quickly
*There are four ways to connect with a man: touch, activity, sex, routines
*Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they have to act like women
*The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life.
*Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away.
This is me talking again: For women talking about the R to get closer is like breathing but for guys it's uncomfortable. When a woman says "can we talk about the R" she's really saying "you aren't taking care of my needs", and he's thinking "how'd I screw up this time" and guys run like Hell from this! So, anyway, it might be worth a look at this book just to help you consider other ways of connecting. I should start getting a cut from the profits for this book
