Wife gone...Is there hope

[strange]

Hi guys hope you are all doing well & thanks again for taking time to read & reply.

I think you are doing very well in a tough sitch. Please keep a PMA, keep GALing and focusing on yourself. It's the best you can do no matter what happens.

Nomopo

Not sure what a PMA is/stands for? As GAL goes, tommorrow is my motercycle road test, it's something that i have thought about before & never done a thing about it. So two weeks ago I thought what the hell, why not give it a go. So thats my next plan/goal to get that sorted out, with luck I should pass & be a two wheeler by tommorow evening.

Strange (do you think you could have a better name )

LOL..Actually it goes back to childhood & everyone including my mother calls it me. It's not that i am strange, well maybe sometimes

It's kind of nice managing everything all by yourself, isn't it. I think it's good that you are keeping everything up, might as well since you might have to for the forseeable future.

I have to say at first it looked very black..But it's a good scence of independance & pride too, now that I have got into the swing of it. I know all the best bargins at the supemarket & the malls
But being serious, it's also nice to think that if my W comes back, I would like it to mean just that, to come back to this house. It's by no means a palace but it took us 10 years to able ourself to be in a position to afford the mortgage. So at the moment im thankful that W does not want a penny from it, as I can just about afford to pay for everything on my own.

Nomopo asked about contact. I think it's natural to feel like you are giving the impression that you don't care when you don't contact her. But it's very hard to force contact if the other party doesn't want to hear from you. But is that true in your case? Does it result in negatives if you call her up once in a while and just shoot the breeze or see how she's doing? It's transparent what your motives are, but if she greets you warmly and doesn't act like she wants off the phone after 10 seconds then it's probably okay to contact her on occasion. As for your anniversary, I think it's appropriate to at least say that you regret on your anniversary that it's come to this, you wish it had turned out differently, but your thankful for the time that you did have together.

The time we have spent on the phone has been frindly & I have not got the feeling that she has wanted to get done & have me gone, if anything, I have kept it short & sweet, as it has been to sort out matters that I thought may cause her pressure. There has been one call that I actually got a giggle & a laugh from her (just rememberd this) & the last time I called her, we did chat for a little while as she had asked me how my weekend went etc.

I'll not go into too much detail about my W's job but I have a very keen intrest in the work she does, she does know this too. I always told her how proud I was of her & I gave her alot of support for it also. I actually miss her telling me all the details of what has happend etc..So if I was to call her that is what I would kinda use as a subject.

Just my 2 cents, if her name is on the house title, you may want to check the legality of changing locks if you do decide to do that.

Anyways hang tough guy. Somedays are harder than others.

I would'nt change the locks unless my W gave me good grounds to do so, I know she has left me & that can distroy alot of trust, but I still feel like I could trust her with anything. How crazy is that?

Thanks again...

Strange (thats not so strange )