She had mentioned in the past couple months "it is just sex" and she doesn't want to kiss or cuddle or put any emotion or effort into it, just basically lay there, me do what she wants how she wants and that is it. I've tried to hold her hand during it and in the past she would, not now, or kiss her during and she'd do it begrudglingly a little. She is so emotionally disconnected that it shows thru and thru during any physical affection. Hard to put the pieces together when everytime they're thrown all over the place each time, can't make progress. I want to pick up where we left off, not square one (or less) each time she visits.
Wife is good with the kids and dogs, loves them to death, I'm the only one with the plague (or is it TB?). Still not sure how to handle her surgery, it is all the talk at work, but I'm left out in the cold and don't know what to say or ask about it anymore.
