Being Me, what can you do to take control? I would suggest you stop telling him you want to be involved and present a plan that would MAKE you involved. I remember my W complaining that she felt like an outsider in the family because all she did was work and yell at the kids. I said that I would be glad to turn over any chore/duty she felt she'd like to do e.g. pay the bills and she responded "I don't actually want to do any of these things, I'm talking about feelings here" Yup, I was being the man and looking for a solution ultra quickly and passing over the feeling part. I imagine your Hubby is a bit the same, so unless you take action and tell him how you want to be involved, he will just carry on as is. So how might you "assert yourself and take control"? You can't wait for him to "get it", that's more of the same. What can you do that is different now?
