gotta say, as abrasive as Cemar's delivery may be...I can't say I think he's wrong about much of this.

I did know a guy..ONE guy...ONCE...who complained that his GF wanted it too often. "{sigh} all the time...". I, of course, was actually offended by the mere notion, and yelled at him that he ought to be on his knees every day thanking the Lord above for the gem he was sent!! (and I'm not religious. LOL!!)

seriously. One guy.
every other comment I have ever heard was decrying the opposite condition. jokes...snarky comments...etc. Even in popular culture, the gags and stuff on TV sit-coms. (except for one: remember mr and mrs Roper, from "Three's Company"? She was the HD one...that was funny because it was so unheard of.)
anyway, the jokes like the ever-popular one about the smiling bride wouldn't be funny if there wasn't some truth to them.
funny story: a guy I know was recounting his recent vasectomy experience. (quite rare, actually, for guys to ever speak aloud of anything so intimate...but anyway...) he said that after it was all done, the doc said to him that he wouldn't actually be sterile right away, and that he'd have to have 20 ejaculations before any errant sperm were completely out of the plumbing. To which the patient responded in an insensed tone, "you mean I gotta wait TWO YEARS before I can actually USE this????!!!??" \:o
of course, we all just about fell on the floor laughing so hard.

But, researchers like Snarch and MWD state that they have "studies" that say its a 50/50 mix. What they DON'T say is how they collected the data. and I find it rather suspect, just noting the nature of men and women. If a woman has anything to complain about, you WILL hear about it. not so w/ men. especially irt anything that has anything to do w/ sex or relationships. Even if you pin them down and force them to fill out the questionaire, they probably won't tell you the truth.
Heard an interesting comment recently, on the subject of "viagra" et al. (something on tv...don't remember the context). even with all the millions and millions of $$$ they've made on the stuff, with all the pills they've sold, it was estimated that only 20% of the men that could use it have even enquired about it. Most would much rather suffer w/ ED than talk about it. (which would naturally be required in order to get a rx.). I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if one day it comes out that while 50% of the people that show up at councelor's offices looking for SSM help are men...they are only 20% of the men who are suffering from the condition, 80% of whom will not seek help.

The HD women who have been treated badly, yet remain HD...why? because they just are. I believe that if that is your LL, there isn't much of anything anyone can do to you to change that. Reading through all these books, which list the "causes" (psychological, medical, etc) of LD, it really seems that *I* should be the LD one. (and W made the same statement, independantly). But I'm not. Because I'm not.