I don't know how your R came to change, but with us, it wasn't the result of the HD person making any sort of ultimatim.
yeah, and that's just what that "I will not live in a sexless marriage" thing is. an "ultimatum", or (back to the original topic), a condition of staying married. call it a "boundary" or a ham-sandwich, if you like; its an edict for change. Personally, I don't feel that I have the leverage to be issuing such ultimatums. probably just as well, eh?
